The Silent Harm of Flying Monkeys: Understanding Energetic Betrayal

There is a kind of betrayal that does not just break your heart, it fractures something in your spirit. If you have survived narcissistic abuse, you know this pain well. But what often hurts even more is when the betrayal does not come directly from the narcissist, it comes from the people around them. The ones who should, and sometimes do, know better. The ones who, for a moment, seem like they finally see the truth.

I will never forget sitting at the table with my uncle. He looked frustrated and angry. And for the first time, I felt like he really saw what I had endured. He said something that both shocked me and gave me a strange sense of hope:

“After my mother dies, I’m done with my sister. I’ve had enough of this.”

There it was, confirmation. Someone else in the family finally acknowledged the dysfunction and the pain. In that moment, I felt validated in a way I hadn’t before.

But it did not last.

Not long after, my calls to him went unanswered. No explanation. No message. Just silence.

And I knew.

She got to him. My mother, nothing if not a master manipulator, had pulled him back in. And just like that, I was erased.

When someone witnesses your truth and then abandons it, a deep imprint is left. This goes beyond emotions. It is energetic. It lives in the body and takes residency in your nervous system and in the soul.

This is the silent harm of flying monkeys. And if you’ve experienced it, I want you to know: you are not imagining things. It is real and the energy runs deep.

What Are Flying Monkeys?

The term “flying monkeys” comes from The Wizard of Oz, but in the realm of narcissistic abuse, it refers to the people who act on behalf of the narcissist, often unknowingly. They may spy, guilt-trip, manipulate, gaslight, or defend the narcissist's behavior under the guise of “keeping the peace” or “being neutral.”

But neutrality in the face of abuse is betrayal. While some flying monkeys may be well shielded from the truth within such a family, those that do know and remain complicit leave an energy of betrayal that is deeply felt.

In narcissistic family systems, flying monkeys are often siblings, spouses, cousins, friends, and even parents. They may have endured similar wounds but are still under the narcissist’s control. My uncle’s moment of clarity was not only rare, it was fleeting. His return to silence was more familiar than surprising. It echoed what I have seen so many times before: the narcissist finds a way to reel people back in, using guilt, obligation, or fear.

The Energetic Signature of Betrayal

When someone betrays you, especially after acknowledging your pain, it sends a shock to your energy system. You may feel:

• Disconnected from your body

• Anxious or restless, even in safe spaces

• Waves of grief that seem too heavy for the situation

• A burning or tightening sensation in the chest or gut

This is because betrayal lives in the heart chakra, solar plexus, and root chakra. It shakes your sense of safety and stability. This is not “just in your head”, it lies within your energy field. And for old souls and empaths, that field is highly sensitive and absorbent.

How the Body Stores Betrayal

When betrayal happens, especially from someone who once seemed aligned with you, your body responds with confusion and survival instinct kick in.

You might experience:

• Muscle tension in the shoulders, neck, or jaw

• Gut issues or inflammation

• Adrenal fatigue or burnout

• Insomnia or sudden vivid dreams

• Panic attacks or emotional numbness

The nervous system is not only responding to “rejection,” it is responding to a breach of energetic trust. For many old souls, this taps into a deeper memory: ancestral or karmic elements where betrayal led to real danger. The body remembers, even if the mind tries to rationalize.

Energetic Healing: Reclaiming Your Power

You do not have to carry the energetic imprint of betrayal forever. Healing is possible and it begins with reclaiming your energy.

Here are a few practices I use personally and often recommend:

🔹 Energetic Cord Cutting

Visualize cords between you and the person who betrayed you. Say aloud or in your mind:
“I release you. I call my energy back to me. I cut this cord with love, and I free myself.”

🔹 Chakra Clearing + Aura Protection

Use smoke (sage, palo santo), sound (singing bowls, chimes), or water (salt baths, rain showers) to clear your auric field. Imagine light sealing your energy body afterward to prevent further leaks.

🔹 Affirmations for the Solar Plexus

Place your hand on your gut and say:
“I stand in my power. I am allowed to outgrow dysfunction. I do not need others to validate my truth.”

🔹 Grounding for the Root Chakra

Walk barefoot. Hold grounding stones (like hematite or black tourmaline). Focus on your legs and feet. Tell your body: “I am safe now.”

🔹 Grief Rituals

Write a letter to the flying monkey. Say everything you want to say. Burn it safely as a symbol of release. Let any tears shed be sacred because they are wisdom leaving your body.

Next Steps

If you have been betrayed by someone who once claimed to believe you, know this: their reversal does not erase the truth you carry. Their silence is not a reflection of your worth. And their re-alignment with the narcissist is not your fault.

You are not crazy. You are not too much. You are not overreacting.

You are a soul who sees clearly in a world where many are still asleep.

And while that clarity comes with pain, it also comes with power, the power to break cycles and to choose peace over dysfunction.

Please know that your light has not gone unnoticed. I honor the path you have walked to get here.

Should you find yourself needing further guidance in healing your energy after betrayal, you can contact me here for a session. It would be an honor to support you on your path to energetic freedom and soul restoration.

Have you ever experienced betrayal from someone you thought understood your pain? I invite you to share how this experience affected your energy and healing journey, your story matters.